Ask A Tranny<\/a>. Sarah is open for questions to address in her next article so please feel free to ask yours in the comments section below or email her at maywalt@gmail.com. \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n\u201cAsk a Tranny \u2013 What Womanhood Means to Me\u201d By: Sarah Maywalt<\/p>\n
I am a transsexual woman, and many people are curious about that. I do my best to answer any question posed without malice. I know many trans women who are very tired of the questions, but I feel I have a duty for my welfare and the welfare of trans women who come after me to educate those who want to understand. It does help that I am a comedian and a huge attention whore.<\/p>\n
With that in mind, I want to open the floor to you, the reader. This column will be about satisfying curiosity and clearing misconceptions about a trans woman like me, but I need your questions. Please ask your questions in the comments or email them to me at maywalt@gmail.com, and I will pick one or two for each column. \u00a0Since we don\u2019t have your questions yet, I will start with one of the more interesting questions I have been asked:<\/p>\n
What does womanhood mean to me?<\/b><\/p>\n
What a loaded question! How can I answer that without pissing off absolutely everyone? Well, my mom always told me to do what I do best, and I am amazing at pissing people off. Let\u2019s get to it.<\/p>\n
I should begin by defining what womanhood actually is. To do this, I could trot out behaviors and stereotypes–women are more caring, women are less strong, women cry, women like shiny things, women are better at English than math, women don\u2019t like Hitler, etc.\u2014but some woman, somewhere, would have a problem with my description. There is no one behavior that defines a woman, so I have to turn to the physical. There is one thing, and only one thing, that makes a woman a woman, and it\u2019s not a vagina.<\/p>\n
Yes, I have a penis, and yes, I am a woman. I have had so many arguments with people who feel the duty<\/i> to inform me of the truth<\/i> as proven by science<\/i> that everyone born with a penis<\/i> is a man<\/i>. I know that we are all told that boys have a penis and girls have a vagina, but there is more to biology than what your 8th<\/sup> grade health teacher taught you.<\/p>\nSome say that I would be a woman only after my operation, leaving the distinction of whether I\u2019m a man or woman up to what I have between my legs at any given time. That means, I can only imagine, that any male soldier with his penis blown off by a bomb in Iraq returns from the war a woman. I\u2019d imagine some of our war wounded would be rather surprised to learn that.<\/p>\n
So if womanhood cannot be defined by behavior or by genitals, what is womanhood? Womanhood is an instinct, an inborn urge to identify with other women. It is a bunch of neurons programmed with a gender alignment at birth. That\u2019s it. There is nothing sexy or spiritual about it. There is no behavior or body style, no color choice, and no sexual preference or position that disqualifies you.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s what womanhood is, but what does it mean to me? To me, it means womanhood is what you make of it\u2014no more, no less.<\/p>\n
Maybe that seems like it\u2019s anti-climactic or a cop-out. Am I a woman just because I say I am? Yes, and so are you! Unless you are a guy. Then, you are a guy. What if you are somewhere in the middle? Fine! Enjoy! We are all free to define womanhood, manhood, or whatever else-hood for ourselves, and any wet fart who tells you otherwise can eat a sack of peanuts.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ll continue to tell dead baby jokes and dream of motherhood. I\u2019ll continue to cheer for hockey fights while clutching a teddy bear. I\u2019ll continue to have a penis until I have the money to correct god\u2019s mistake, because I\u2019m Sarah Maywalt, and being a Sarah Maywalt kind of woman is the best woman I can be.<\/p>\n
I may come off as an ultimate gender rebel with what I have written above, but I do make concessions to social norms. I wear make-up to cover up what is left of my facial hair. I have changed the way I walk and the way I speak. I tuck away \u201cVoldemort.\u201d I constantly analyze my own actions and try to improve other\u2019s reactions to me. This may seem at odds with the idea that each woman defines womanhood, but unlike most women, I wasn\u2019t handed a membership to the sisterhood at birth.<\/p>\n
Like most women, I want to be seen as a woman. Unfortunately, I was raised as a boy, and my body was affected by testosterone. It\u2019s not easy to change the appearance biology gave me and the behaviors society forced on me to a point where I am not ridiculed. I needed to leave my fundamental self alone, but I also needed to conform my superficial attributes to a more feminine ideal. I\u2019m sure there are some hard-core feminists who would scoff at my struggle to be more \u201cfeminine,\u201d but they don\u2019t live my life. It hurts to be mocked. It hurts to be called \u201csir.\u201d<\/p>\n
So womanhood is what you make of it, but for me, I have to fight hard to have it recognized.<\/p>\n
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